Living Between the Lines

…and a stale cake for the pantry

The festive season has arrived and for once, I appear to be ahead of myself. I have presents bought and wrapped, well maybe not all wrapped but more than usual!  I have scoured online shops and braved the madding crowds in town. My Christmas cards have been written and if I remember to buy the stamps, they will actually be posted early for a change.

My mother is not a big fan of online shopping although we do go through a painstaking task each week of preparing her grocery list which I then order and have sent to her through Sainsbury’s website. Over the last year, we have had some particularly bad experiences with her weekly shop. There was the time I sent nine bags of apples instead of the 9 loose apples she had requested. This was marginally better than the time I ordered for my sister and she received, one orange, one banana and an apple instead of a bag of each. Mistakes happen! There have been out of date items received and her favourite chicken dinners substituted with another brand entirely.

Despite her misgivings, my mother has been quite active within the online shopping brigade this year via yours truly. She has bade me order underwear and household utensils with varying degrees of success. At one stage she was receiving bags of underwear daily as she changed her mind about sizes and type.

Last week, she called me to tell me she had received eighteen food items she had not ordered. She read out the receipt. It included sherry trifles,

—“Well, I didn’t order those!”

Liver and bacon,

—“I don’t even like liver and bacon, can’t stand it!”

She went on to name a motley selection of items never before asked for.

I could sense she was getting irate.

“So, did you give them back to the delivery man?” I asked.

—“No, I didn’t really look at the receipt until he had gone.”

I told her I would phone the company and sort it out. She seemed to have someone else’s shopping.

—“I do don’t I?” she agreed.

The company was helpful (after I had stayed on the line for some time, listening to jingle bells or was it Tubular Bells? —I went to the same school as Mike Oldfield as it happens though he is older than I) but of course, customer services had questions such as, had she received any of her ordered items? I wasn’t sure. I explained that she lives over a hundred miles away from me.

I phoned my mother again. Had she received any of the items she had ordered?

—“Oh, only milk, oh hang on, I can’t remember now – yes, milk, oh and bread, oh and the curries and…”

It transpired she had all her order. The truth was slowly beginning to dawn,

“Mum, do you actually have liver and bacon and sherry trifles in your cupboard?”

—“Well, no, of course not, I didn’t order them, but they are on the receipt.”

Ah, it all became clear. I phoned the company back and they promised to send the correct receipt out. Clearly, the delivery man had mixed them up. My mother did not have a cupboard full of unwanted goods after all.

Not to be thwarted by this time-consuming and mildly frustrating experience, I was only too happy to order something else for her this week, apart from her groceries. My mother required a vacuum cleaner and had seen just the one she wanted on TV which she told me was the same as my middle daughter has. I researched it. It was the lightest model, the most compact when stored, both important criteria for my mother who is barely five feet tall.

After a long discussion, I ordered the said item which arrived the very next day.

Alas, it was not the one she had in mind, despite it being identical to the one my daughter has. She phoned me, apologetic and worried that she had spent so much on the wrong thing. I am glad I was able to reassure her that we could send it back. I rang the company and they are sending a courier to collect it today. Unfortunately, my mother is not able to get it back into the box and close the lid properly as she cannot remove the cleaning head she attached when setting it up. Not being able to ask my daughter, who is away, I looked up the instructions online and passed them along. The process involves the use of a flat-head screwdriver to lever something off—most odd! My mother tried but it was beyond her.

I have told her to put the entire box into a black bin bag which she is doing. Hopefully, the courier will not mind taking it like this.

We have decided that when my mother visits us for Christmas, we will take her to the electrical shop and she can choose the cleaner she wants.

Online shopping is great—but this will be so much easier!

Meanwhile, I have prepared a little song for my mother. It should be read or sung to the tune of ‘Twelve days of Christmas’ and I hope she will see the funny side!

Enjoy and Merry Christmas!

On the first day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

A stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the second day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the third day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the fourth day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the fifth day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

5 golden crunch,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the sixth day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

6 pairs of knickers,

5 golden crunch,

4 weight watcher’s curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the seventh day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

7 large bananas,

6 pairs of knickers,

5 golden crunch,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the eighth day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

8 bras not fitting,

7 large bananas,

6 pairs of knickers,

5 golden crunch,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the ninth day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

9 bags of apples,

8 bras not fitting,

7 large bananas,

6 pairs of knickers,

5 golden crunch,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the tenth day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

10 Dyson cleaners,

9 bags of apples,

8 bras not fitting,

7 large bananas,

6 pairs of knickers,

5 golden crunch,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the eleventh day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

11 pairs of bloomers

10 Dyson cleaners,

9 bags of apples,

8 bras not fitting,

7 large bananas,

6 pairs of knickers,

5 golden crunch,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try.

On the twelfth day of Christmas, my daughter sent to me,

12 wrong receipts,

11 pairs of bloomers

10 Dyson cleaners,

9 bags of apples,

8 bras not fitting,

7 large bananas,

6 pairs of knickers,

5 golden Crunch,

4 Weight Watchers curries

3 chicken dinners

2 sherry trifles

And a stale-cake for the pan-try

I am an Author, wife to one, mother to five and grandmother to six. I live in the English countryside in Hampshire, UK, with my husband and two dogs and am a non exec Director for Glow www.theglowstudio.com.

9 Comments

  • Hilary

    Hi Deborah .. this is wonderful and I love the poem – such fun.

    Thankfully my uncle gave up – and I just ordered the things he liked … we just got excesses – and I’d often have to top up with bottles of wine … he never worried he loved the man coming and loved his presents every time we did an order … when he died we had extra stocks!!

    I love your story – and am glad I didn’t have that trouble .. though I was only 15 miles away ..

    Have a happy Christmas … and enjoy the visit … cheers Hilary

  • patricia60

    Oh I know this well and my mum was living in our bedroom just up a flight of stairs or down the lift chair from us. I would cart up the laptop and we would go over each item, most came just fine ( though I did not do food on line, not that advanced here – just in the big cities) She loved ordering gifts on line and having them wrapped and sent directly. Then when the physical therapist said we had to get a different kind of clothing for her after she fractured her spine and had surgery, well nothing was ever right. Though the fleece pants and hoodies were warmer and cozy for sitting and reading….they were not what she wanted to wear.

    Then I found out that she was just irritated with me, but telling my sister, 3,000 miles away, a whole different story. I was wasting her funds and giving away what she wanted her children to have from her. She neglected to say to my sister that we only bought 3 for the days the PT came to assist her. That we struggled into the old clothes for the other days, because we both knew she was dying. It was a 6 month game. ( the story gets very scary to recall from here, but it cost me more than my mum will ever know – as now she is gone) But we did love shopping on line and it was a good experience to share and made some very silly memories that still make me laugh.

    Love your winter format! More good story telling.
    I wonder what our generation will make our children amazed!
    Yesterday my older friend got her lunch order and the wait staff totally confused. I just secretly wrote down what she really wanted and handled over to the staff…and low and behold it was a perfect lunch with white wine!!! Then this smarty pants elbowed my own dish and dumped a whole plate of Phud Thai onto my pink sweater….ah yes so it goes. You just have to keep laughing

  • Teresa

    I love your Christmas blog! I used to do shopping for my mum and her two friends – the pickles I used to get into if I got the “wrong” sausages or any number of mistakes. I got to know them well at customer services back then 🙂 I can only imagine how much more difficult it would have been with internet shopping.

    I enjoyed your song/poem and now keep singing it to myself! x

    • Deborah Barker

      I have been doing it this way for about three years I think, Teresa, and it does get harder. I know the list off by heart and it only ever changes slightly but when I am asked if the bananas look big or the plums look ripe, I am lost…I am glad you kept singing the song, you could put anything to those verses really couldn’t you? 🙂

  • Andrea

    Deborah, how did I miss this until now? You are a woman of enormous patience, and I appreciate your new, sparkling version of that old song. You English people are good at messing with that one. I just listened to this by Penelope Keith earlier today: http://kazza.id.au/files/AndyetAnoth…naPearTree.mp3, which I found here, in case that link doesn’t work: http://www.thefedoralounge.com/showthread.php?52654-Penelope-Keith-quot-Yet-Another-Partridge-in-a-Pear-Trea

    Have a wonderful 2013!

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